Many, many of us women spend most of their waking hours thinking about dieting. Or losing weight. Thinking about trimming fat off of their bodies so they can be more pleased with the reflection in the mirror.

Many, many men spend most of their waking hours thinking about sex and how good their bodies might look to prospective girlfriends/wife. Thinking about what to do to tone up, bulk up, firm up so they can be more macho.

So we work out and we pay attention to what we eat and don’t eat. And most of us don’t get permanent results if that’s all we do. Because it’s all backwards.

Life happens from the inside out.

But we want to do things backwards, looking for the outs before we get the ins. Investing into changing our inside first by nourishing our minds, cherishing our souls seems a bit seems lame. Too labor intensive. Stupid.

Yet come to think of it, controlling and growing our inside life in the right direction is truly the first pillar of change. Because we won’t ever live above our thoughts, no matter what. And this one pillar, it is the one that will cause all other pillars to line up just right. And only when this one pillar is well established can we actually change the shape and health of our bodies.

Because everything in life starts and happens from the inside out.  

In my career as a personal trainer, I once had a lovely client who saw herself as an “ugly fat cow.” Every time she saw herself in my wall-to-wall mirror, she pointed her chin to the mirror and say, “you ugly fat cow!” At least three times a session. Sometimes more.

You ugly fat cow.

You ugly fat cow.

You ugly fat cow.

She said it. She believed it. She was it in her own mind.

And as long as that is where her mind was, her body never changed. No matter how hard she worked. No matter how little she ate. Nothing changed.

You ugly fat cow.

As I gained her confidence, I began to talk to her about her thoughts and her speech. We eventually got to the place where she was forbidden to say “you ugly fat cow.”

And then she began to believe me.

She changed her mind about herself. She changed her thoughts.

And her body changed.

Cultivating Thankfulness with Ann

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#620 His Word in my heart

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