Friend or Foe?


“Mirror Mirror on the Wall, Who Is the Fairest of Them All?”

Not me. Never me. Never, ever me.

My mirror has spoken so loud for the longest part of my life. And my mirror, it has lied to me for the longest part of my life. It has been my foe, my nemesis, my dreaded companion. It has not been my friend.

My mirror, it said that because of what it saw, I wasn’t worth very much. It said that I wasn’t going to amount to much. It said that I was lazy, undisciplined, a loser.

And for the longest time, I swallowed it all.

No more.

Because after all the badgering, I finally had a talk with my mirror the other day. Well, not really–it was more like me talking and the mirror being forced to reflect the truth of my words.

Because at the end of the day, that’s what mirrors do, don’t they? They reflect what they see. They repeat what they hear.

And my mirror, all these years, it did just that. It saw someone who thought of herself as fat, ugly. And it heard an insecure little girl who defined herself as a loser at life, worthless. And so it told me so. And since it came with the authority of mirrors, I believed it all.

But I have been doing a lot of growing up. Fifty-four years worth of growing up. And for the last thirty-eight of these years, I have been learning and practicing to yield my thinking to the Word of God rather than my own judgments on things. And the process has been excruciating slow at times. I have lost many times. But I have won more. And however slow the process might have been, it did its thing in me, is doing its thing in me, and the reflection in the mirror is changing. The image in the mirror is beginning to speak of confidence in a God so much greater than mirrors. And the image in the mirror, it tells the story of redemption.

I stepped in closer the other day, and examined the lines around my mouth, the lines around my eyes, the skin that lost some of its youth–ok, most of it maybe… But the mirror wasn’t reflecting loss. The mirror is not reflecting loss these days. The image in the mirror, it speaks of boldness that comes from knowing who is for me. And the image in the mirror, it tells the story of redemption.

I like this story. It speaks of love, and joy, and a future and a hope. It displays my weaknesses but glories in His grace.

I like this story. It puts God in the forefront. It makes Him big and keeps me where I belong.

I like the story that God writes. I  I think I am going to continue to let it be the reflection I see.

Cultivating Thankfulness with Ann Voskamp

#737 Visiting Nadia in the hospital 

#738 Trying out a new recipe 

#739 Veggies from my garden

#740 My daughter feeling better

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  1. Thank you so much for this post. I found you via A Mama’s Story and am glad I did. I struggle with the mirror as well and really needed this this morning. My experience has been much different. From the mirror reflecting pride in middle and high school, to disappointment as I went through college, to more disappointment as I grew older and began to have children and sleepless nights that left my face looking lifeless. And now, when I finally began to stop seeing my own self-worth (pride), I am beginning to see my worth in Christ and what He sees in me. Thank you so much for sharing your heart!


  2. “They reflect what they see. They repeat what they hear.”
    Ouch. These are truths that I need to be reminded of, Barbara. At 50, I’m seeing (and feeling) so many signs of old age that I don’t like. But that isn’t the real me; the real me is a redeemed new creation made and loved by God Himself! Thanks for the encoragement.


  3. Amen, Barbara. Substituting the truth of the Word for the lies of the mirror, society, culture, and ourselves is the way to put off and put on. And I sure like what I put on a whole lot better than what I put off. Thanks for sharing!


  4. I love your post about the mirror and redemption. Beautiful. And another redeeming value of the mirror is in safe friends putting the mirror up for us to see ourselves in order to grow. Sometimes painful but worth it – if asking a true friend. Also redemptive. I, too, in my fifties, only a few more days though. And it’s nice reading from someone in my season of life.
    Keep on writing! Love your insight!


  5. Thank you for sharing your mirror story with us here at “Tell Me a Story.” Those pesty mirrors are good at telling lies. It is good to get a new mirror, one that reflects Jesus when you look into it. Perhaps that is why we have God’s word for it is often like a mirror for us to view Jesus.


  6. Hola Barbara!
    I pray to God every day that every time I look in the mirror, I hope to see more and more of his light in me! Please have me in your prayers. Thanks for being such an inspiration and for linking up such a heart-touching story. God bless! .


  7. Me too. Oh wow. Me too. And I’m sick of not only believing the lie or else perpetuating it, but for being so SELF focused this way. What a trap. Bless you –once again, God led me to you from amongst all the links! He likes us “together”! 🙂


  8. Barbara, I love how you said the mirror reflects what it hears/sees. This is so true. I’m working on something right now that includes using a mirror. Our thoughts and self-image can be so destructive if we let it; but so powerful if we just see ourselves and children of the King. Love this!


  9. This is a beautiful post, Barbara. Thanks so much for sharing so openly something that so many of us can relate to. I love your view of maturity in Christ and how our journey through life reflects how much closer we are getting to Him. Love it.

    Thanks for linking up at Essential Fridays.
    Mel from Essential Thing Devotions.


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