I just never liked her. There was just something about her, you know? She was loud, inappropriate with most of her remarks, and she seemed to always know how to push my buttons. Of course, I knew better, but that did not make it any easier.
And then, one day, it all changed. It was a grey Saturday morning, and we were sitting around, four women having coffee. Why she wound up in the midst of the three of us old friends, I have no idea. But there she was, having coffee with us. And as much as I longed to delight in the moment, her presence was ruining it for me. The conversation was light, and at some point, Kathryn mentioned her daughter reaching out to another child who was being picked on at school. The loud woman turned quiet, and the room became uncomfortable.
“What’s her deal now?” I wondered.
“That happened to me,” she said quietly. “Only it wasn’t at school. It was at home. By my Daddy.” The woman began to share her story and the atrocities of her childhood, the cruelty and humiliations she endured at the hands of her father, her mother’s weakness in ignoring the abuse, the homeless years, the man who took her in. She spoke for probably twenty minutes. And I listened.
Her story made her real to me. Her story gave me insight. Her story totally changed the way I saw her. I felt my heart melting toward her.
After I got home that afternoon, I thought about the ugly shriveled up handicapped man who lived across the street when I was little, and how I loved him so because he was alone and ugly, and how he taught me to play chess and we used to sit and talk for hours on the hot summer days. I never minded his ugliness, because I knew his story, and his looks were completely irrelevant in the equation of love.
And then, I remembered the woman who never stood up while in church and how I used to think she was so full of herself until I found she couldn’t really stand because her back was just too painful.
I thank God for the woman who rubbed me the wrong way and became my dear friend. It took her to chisel through my shameless know-it-all pride. And at fifty-five years young, I finally learned a valuable life lesson–listen to the story behind the faces, Barbara, because knowing someone’s story changes everything.
Yes, Lord, I am listening.
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