Grey Hair

Two things happened the year my birthday came around and brought me closer to sixty than fifty:

First, I decided to let my hair go “natural.” It was a gutsy decision that I revisited many, many times in my head, but as of right now, I am sticking with it.

The reactions of people were interesting, from “please cover that grey!” to “I love it!” My kids disliked it at first, then they got used to it–not sure if they actually like it at all, but they have accepted it.

black sweater

I am still not settled on how I feel about the grey hair in the mirror. At first, I thought I liked it, but then the lady in the mirror made me feel old. I don’t like the fact that her hair color has the power to determine how I feel about her, but it did. I actually found myself slowing down, saying “no” to things that require a lot of energy, as though the lady in the mirror’s hair color changed my attitude, as though it had a voice whispering that I was too old for this or that–suggesting that it was too late.

Second, I was told that one of my jobs was ending at the end of the month, and I found myself having a difficult time showing up with enthusiasm. It was hard to truly invest myself into that job; what’s the point, now that it’s ending?

And my reaction to these two changes in my life shocked me. Am I calling it quits? Am I not willing to invest in the future any longer, just because of a new season and a grey haired lady in the mirror?

I just don’t like that the color of my hair or the smoothness of my skin can dictate my feelings, attitudes, facial expressions, words, goals or lack thereof. And this somehow made me think about all these elderly people who say they are ready to die, they are done with living, they don’t mind… Do these attitudes come with the knowledge that things are coming to an end, and there isn’t much point in investing oneself any longer? Like my job? Or the message that my natural hair color speaks to me?

I don’t like this at all.

Better go get that hair colored, girl, or better change your thoughts.

So I just changed my mind.

And I reframed my thoughts.

So I decided that my hair color is earned, and rather than declaring the beginning of the end, I am deciding that it is declaring the season of harvest.

Harvest on all those hours of hard work. Harvest of serenity, and settled spirit, and strength of character built over years of practice. Harvest of joy in view of all the advantages that age produces.

My harvest is bigger than the sum of what I have been. And the benefits, they are in the Now. They will fall upon me, grey hair and all, and on the fruit of the wombs of those who are yet to come.

I simply choose to get passionate again and dare myself again to live fully, grey hair and all. Especially grey hair. It will ignite my purpose, it will keep my dream fueled.

When I stare at the grey haired lady in the mirror, I will tell her that the best is yet to come. I will see the sparkly of hope as she lives in the Now.

And she will love the Now, even until the last Now she will ever live on planet earth. Especially that one.

I am good with that.


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  1. Your hair looks great. Someone (don’t remember who) once wrote “my face is a biography of my life” and I believe that’s true of our face, our hands and yes, even our hair. Since I’m closer to 70 than I am to 60 I understand this more each day. I don’t always like the person I see in that mirror because my mind still thinks I’m around 40 😉 But honestly, in the quiet times when I can reflect, I love where I am and who I am in life and would not want to go back.
    Your hair, your thoughts, your attitude are right on!


  2. The gray looks good. My daughter is a hairdresser so has kept my stray grays at bay thus far. I am seeing more people opt for the natural look and I like it. You have a great attitude on aging and I like that too – living for the day. We can all benefit from that not matter how young, old or in between.


  3. I’ve struggle too about coloring my hair, in my fifties and I have done it three times and then I decide to let it go naturally. I’ve come to terms with the fact, whether I color or not, does not turn back the clock or defines me. Growing older can have its beauty in its own right. You look beautiful and so happy I came across your blog.


  4. Love your look! I have preserved the pure silver in my bangs for 10 years now, and am in the process of growing the rest out just now. I have finally (at age 60) decided that if I am making my own soap, laundry detergent and growing my own food to avoid bad ingredients-perhaps I better quit slathering that crap on my scalp! I have tried to do this before, I hope I am successful this time, and don’t lose my nerve.


  5. Just this week my husband and I were talking about getting a new perspective on some things in life. Love that you did that and are encouraging others to do the same. Thanks for linking up at #ThreeWordWednesday.


  6. I appreciate this post… in our culture where youth is worshiped and gray hair or aging is seen as outdated and something to be ashamed of, we have lost sight of what the Bible says about it… “The hoary head is a crown of glory if it be in the way of righteousness.” Proverbs 16:31 I admire your courage and I hope you can ignore than woman in the mirror if she starts discouraging you. 🙂


  7. another wonderful post my friend. I embrace my “grandma highlights” I was just discussing my hair color with a few other women who color theirs(They were trying to get me to color mine). I have no intention ( as of this moment) of changing it. Thank you for sharing at the Thursday Favorite Things blog hop xo

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  8. So wonderfully well said. I love the idea of “Harvest”!. Your gray hair looks beautiful by the way! Women in my family gray young. My mom worked hard to hide hers. I never saw the point. I started graying in my late 20s and now I have a good set of what I affectionately call “wisdom streaks”. Like your “harvest” analogy, I feel I have earned these badges of beauty and I am determined NOT to hide them because each one represents wonderful lessons and a life lived fully. Blessings to you as you enjoy your Harvest…. and look wonderful as you do!


  9. You look great and classy. I always liked gray hair, but if I have my mom’s genes I will not get them anytime soon. She’s 76 and has very few grays. I guess we always want what we don’t have, lol. So happy you linked up with us at Thursday Favorite Things.


  10. I love your hair- it is so graceful 🙂 I love your attitude that it was earned and I think there is so much beauty in not fighting to keep what we had and instead taking things as they come. When I turned 30 awhile ago, I really wanted to celebrate it unlike a lot of my friends who were celebrating another 29th. I had been so sick when I was in high school that I doubted that I would ever see 30 so when it came, I just felt so grateful that God has given me all that He has. I have a few friends who I lost a few years ago and I’ve realized how much growing older is a privilege. Thanks so much for sharing and not letting the externals define you! It is a reminder we all need!


  11. I like your hair, I am in the same situation with mine and even though I am a young grandma I don’t need to act as though life is nearly over. I agree lets live passionately and to the full. Thanks for sharing at Good Morning Mondays. Blessings


  12. Your gray hair is earned, and a crown of glory too! I loved your musings about the color of your hair and how it defines you. I think you are doing the right thing! Hugs to you today 🙂


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