We’ve done life together for the last 34 years.

Thirty-four years worth of laughter, and pressure, and everyday stuff.

Together, we saw the end of our church as we knew it, almost died in the process but found ourselves strengthened as a new living organism took shape. We cheered each other’s children through T-ball, baseball, football and basketball games. We stood proud at graduations, laughed, ate and danced at weddings, delighted in the birth of grand-children. We had Memorial Day picnics every year.

We grew up from young adults figuring out what being grown-ups meant to mature human beings, steadied by the faithfulness of God through the years of our life, through the valleys and mountain tops, through the pains and victories.

And today, we bury Andrew.


Andrew who grew up in our midst, so full of life. Andrew who always had a guitar in his hands, Andy so full of kindness, whose smile just made you melt.

I gently touch Jim’s cheek.

“You look tired, my friend.”

“Oh, the Lord is granting me good sleep. It’s just that when I wake up, I see his face, you know…”

I know.

I hug Snow, Andy’s mom, and her raw grief cuts through me. She holds on for dear life. I hold on even tighter.

After the dirt covers Andy’s casket, we go to our church basement and sit around a table filled with good comfort food, because food is what we know to give. But we all know that it’s not about the food.

Jim tells stories about Andy, and he smiles; Snow, she even giggles a bit at the memory, but her eyes are the saddest, and her hands are empty. I fill her hands with mine and join in the giggle.

We don’t really need words right now. We know.

Thirty-four years together, that counts for a lot. We’ve become family. And we’ve stood together through the good, the bad and the ugly. Today, it’s the ugly.

But we are family.

Jim and Snow, we stand with you so that you can breathe.

Sometimes, I link up with any or all of these wonderful writers: Hearts 4 Home,SDG, Hearts Reflected, WLW, EOA, Things I can’t say, Growing Home,Play Dates with God, Monday Musings, Hear it on Sunday,Inspire Me Monday, Tell me a Story, The Better Mom, a Mama’s Story, Into the Word, In and Around Mondays,OYHT, gratituesday,Titus2Tuesdays,Extraordinay,Lessons from Ivy,Denise in Bloom, Sweet Blessings, Faith Filled Friday,Finding Joy,WholeHearted Home, Mom’s the Word, Reclaiming a Redeemed Life, Still Saturday. Wildcrafting Wednesdays, WFMW, Tell His Story




  1. Though I do not know the family personally my heart bleeds for them and for you. I have just prayed that God grant all of you strength to not only endure but to find joy.


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