A Closet is No Place to Live

Some people have amazing closets, I know. But still, a closet is no place to live.

I listened intently to the podcast in which a man described his most traumatic journey of “coming out of the closet” as far as what his sexual indentity felt like to him. He suffered much through the process, learned to build bridges with the people from his past, and navigated through some very uncharted territories.


I don’t have any sexual identity issues, so one might think I couldn’t identify. But the podcast stroke a cord deep within my heart. Because there are many, many things that I have come out of the closet about.

Like the first time I admitted to someone that I sucked my thumb late into adulthood. And when I acknowledged to my family that I had become a born-again Christian and it changed everything about the way they viewed me. And the first time I told someone that my dad had been an alcoholic and my mom did not have the best mothering skills. Or when I confessed that I had food issues.

It feels naked and scary.

You tip-toe around a brand new uncomfortable terrain, and you wonder whether you will be ostrocized. Rejected. Judged. Whether “they” will forever look at you differently. So you try to build a bridge, but you are not sure it will hold you, or them, or that they even would want to meet you in the middle.


It takes courage. Resilience. Knowing why it matters to you.

And the thing that matters, it’s being recognized. Aknowledged. Accepted in the bare naked truth of who you are.

The courage, it is in showing up as you are and letting the chips fall where they may. It is letting go of all the make-up and dare to be real.

But the courage, it is unavoidable. Because at some point, you realize that love has to do with accepting yourself first in all of your uglies and beauties. And daring to be.

And when you break through the lie, you realize that every one else has closets as well. But you find yourself more ready to welcome them out, and love them as they are.

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